Mass Match

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A recent study shows married people posing as singles are nearly 6 times as likely as actual singles to visit online dating sites to find a serious relationship.

That's why you need a personal, private and affordable dating service where people are who they say they are.

Your profile photo can only be viewed by members who have met Lanie, and have been matched with you.

WH0 ARE MASS MATCHERS?
They are singles from 20's-80's. Everyone is in the same boat, after all. With over half the adult population single for the first time in history, it is, oddly, ever more difficult to find the right person.

WHERE ARE THE MASSMATCHERS FROM?
Folks from Western MA and neighboring communities in parts of NY, CT, NH and VT who love my prices and my personal approach.

Perhaps you are frustrated by Internet Dating and looking for a needle in a haystack. Or perhaps you wouldn't consider having your personal information all over the Internet. The cost of personal ads really add up, and going to a bar doesn't seem like a good idea. Friends often don't want to get involved.

If you want to find people chosen for you, who are who they say they are, and who are really ready to meet you and are not playing games, join Mass Match. I try to give you matches that make sense for you and your preferences and not waste your precious time.

If you want someone to talk to about dating, I am here as much as you like. You aren't in the Infamous Internet Black Hole.

Bud and I met through a Dating Service so we understand what it's like. We know you are busy like we were. And you want a service you can afford, more affordable even than Internet Dating.

Look: WHEN IT COMES TIME TO INVEST, YOU CALL A BROKER. WHEN YOU WANT TO BUY A HOUSE, YOU CALL AN AGENT. WHEN IT COMES TIME TO FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE, DONT GO IT ALONE. HAVE US MAKE THE PROCESS OF FINDING YOUR PERFECT MATCH SIMPLE, FUN AND SUCCESSFUL. So....

2. Don't agonize over the simple form because you and I will go over it all together and lots more when we meet. I'll get to know you and your preferences.
3. You will answer 5 more fun questions about yourself.
4. With your client number and pasword you will then be able to see the profiles and photos of matches I have chosen just for you.
5. You will arrange coffee meetings with your matches and I will be available throughout the whole process to coach you and help you as much or as little as you want.

It's as simple as that. Our clients are who they say they are. And they are ready to meet the right person for them.

Because Bud and I met though a dating service and got married, we want to provide the folks in our area a local, respectful and very affordable way to meet that special someone too! With our caring and personal support and coaching, we can help you bring a happy and satisfying relationship into your life. We believe that bringing people together by fostering the beginnings of healthy romantic relationships is an important individual and community service. We want to bring as many people together in Western Mass as possible, and NOW is a wonderful time to begin.

I really like "Tim" and haven't heard from him in two weeks now. I'm worried that he's another guy who I like who doesn't like me. Should I call him and let him know I'm interested or would that be too forward? Should I wait for him to call me? I'm very attracted to him and thought that we had a lot in common. I could easily love "Tim" and feel worried that I could be possibly lettting another love slip out of my life. I am worried about making the wrong move after so much bad luck and I am soooo ready to meet someone special and get engaged by the end of the year. I'm hoping the year ends better than it started.
Joanie in Springfield, Ma

Please, please....you must not come from a desperate place. Even I can pick up on it. Remember what you have to offer and don't get fixated on another's opinion of you. If there is something fun you can do with "Tim," sure, it is okay to give him a call. Or maybe you need him to help you with something....
But the important thing is your attitude and confidence. You will be fine even if he isn't interested in you. Go rent a movie like Mona Lisa Smile and get in touch with your feminine power.
Nothing is more a turn-off than a sense of desperation, and having an agenda for getting engaged or married by a certain time is not healthy and will backfire. Love doesn't fit into a time - table.
Go about your life with confidence, believe that it will happen when the time is ripe....but make sure you are involved in activities you enjoy and have friends that are fun to be with. And that will make you more attractive to others.

The question usually arises in the very beginning of the dating process, "who pays for the date? " A general rule of thumb is that whoever asked the person out should be the one to pay. In most cases, it is really nice and certainly appreciated if the man offers, strongly but gallantly, to pay the tab. The woman can offer to help, of course, or to pay the tip. And it isn't wrong for the man to accept. But he'll look especially good if he pays--many women (and men, too) are traditional and having the man pay says something to them about the man's generosity of spirit. The most important thing is to be gracious and DO NOT FIGHT OVER THE CHECK!

If you think meeting someone through a dating service isn't romantic enough or the normal way, remember that with over 50 percent of adults single, there is no normal way. The people we get are very proactive about their lives. The institutions just aren't in place for people to meet the way they might have years ago. And once you connect with that special someone, it doesn't matter how you met. More importantly this is about finding the right person, not just any person, and there is nothing more powerful or satisfying than that. Believe me, no matter how you met, it feels like destiny.

I just wanted to let you know that Greg and I are going to be getting married in July of 2011. I wanted to thank you for introducing us.

In March I had met Monica for dinner after we connected through Mass Match and immediately hit it off. I am very happy to say that on October 28th, 2005 we were married and life could not be better. Thank you for your service.
Pat and Monica, 30's, Springfield Ma

When I describe Mass Match to my friends I use words like integrity, professionalism, understanding, and always seeking ways to improve the service. I feel fortunate to have this service available as another way to meet people
David, 58, Lenox Ma

I met someone wonderful through your fine service. Lanie's moral support and encouragement helped me during the dating process. I have been having a wonderful time since I've met him. Thank you, Lanie!
Cindy, 37, Springfield Ma

I saw your letter in the Republican and just wanted to thank you for providing the dating service that led me to Jack. Fifteen months after our first meeting (in which I was, actually, pretty much swept off my feet), we are so happy together, now living in a house we just purchased in Westfield. I agree with the author Joan Didion, whom you refer to, that "fate and luck" aren't what make a love affair work out. At 59, I know how much a role intentionality plays. Still, I feel lucky that you sent Jack my way.

I wanted to thank you profusely, for the wonderful miracle that Massmatch created in my life, connecting me to my fiancee and soulmate, Lynne. We had our initial coffee date early last March, became engaged in July, and will be married in October. The timing was perfect, as I was just about to publish my book, "Attention Late Bloomers: You're Right On Time!" (available on Amazon.com, by the way), and was able to include her in the book's dedications. Under the author photo, which Lynne took, I wrote that, as a "late bloomer" myself, I found my true love in my 50's.

I want to encourage all the "late bloomers" out there that it is possible, not just to find a match, but the RIGHT match in middle age and later in life! We are VERY happy together, and wish you and your Massmatch clients, all the joy in the world.
www.jerryposner.com